Never Eat Alone

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This week I should finish reading Keith Ferrazzi’s professional networking book Never Eat AloneMy problem is I tend to have A.D.D. when it comes to reading. So instead of sticking to one book I’ll read 2 or 3 at the same time. Needless to say they end up taking longer to read all together then they really should so I end up forgetting some of the content in the beginning of the book by the time I finished it. But I digress. This is a great book for anybody who wants to continue to grow there careers and do it quickly….and who doesn’t want to do that, right?! Based around his experiences in public and private sector work, Ferrazzi helps you understand the networking is an integral part of your career, whether you’re an entrepreneur, accountant, plumber or garbage man. There were a couple of points that he made that I wanted to share.

 

The Johari Window

 

The Johari Window model was developed by two American psycholigists, Joseph Luft and Harrington Ingham, and is meant to help people understand how much or little they reveal about themselves. Those that are introverted don’t reveal a lot while those who are extroverted are much more open. Being able to adjust your window is an important part of communicating successfully. As you have your comfort level that you like your window, so do others, and being able to adjust your window to the person you are communicate with will help the other person feel more comfortable with you. The safer the climate is to others, the more willing they will be to relax and open there window.

 

This may seem silly….why should I worry about a hypothetical window? Well, communication is the key to relationships. Not only personal relationships, but business relationships as well. Being introverted in business life can lead to a lot of missed opportunities.

 

 Pinging

 

Another key point that I think Ferrazzi makes is in pinging.

 

“If 80% of success is, as Woody Allen would say, just showing up, then 80% of building and maintaining relationships is just staying in touch.”

 

Pinging is keeping communication with those that you encounter throughout your life. You want to make sure that you continue to keep in contact with your network. Maybe not every day, or every week or even every month. Some people may be weekly contacts, some daily….you need to decide where everyone fits in and continue to communicate with them. Without constant feeding, your network can fall apart, and with no network you have a smaller chance of being successful.

 

So start paying attention to your network. Start with your friends and family…yes, they are a network. You use this network differently than you use your professional network, but they both require attention. Communicate with them regularly and don’t be afraid to open your window to somebody you may be able to help. Just remember, networking is not about you and your needs. Networking is about giving and helping others. Make that your priority and your network will grow exponentially.

Training through the Dip

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Seth Godin is a great writer, business man and motivator. In his book The Dip, he explains how it is important for entrepreneurs, investors, business men and women of all kinds to work through the dip. The dip is when everyone gives up, when the majority of those who are pushing forward fall back. The dip is when things get hard, once you’ve started a new project, which is fun and exciting, and suddenly it becomes complex, too hard to handle. This is when most of us quit, right before it really starts to pay off. Well, we can say the same thing for fitness, and I’m here to tell you that training through the dip is rewarding and pays off in the end…you can’t let the resistance win.

 

It happens to anyone who is new to resistance training, dieting, running or any other part of fitness and to those who have been training for years. There are dips everywhere. I like to call them plateaus. If you work long enough you’re bound to hit one, no matter what age or how perfect your routine or diet is, you will plateau. I see it every day. If you’re new to training, you will get hit with the dip the hardest, because you don’t see it coming. When you start your body is adapting, your strength is going up, gains are coming without a problem, your body is changing and suddenly it stops. You’re not sure why, you’re doing the same thing you did last week and the week before that and the week before that. It’s worked good so far, so why the plateau? Simple adaptation.

 

See, your body is a lot more complex than you give it credit for. Every time you train it is changing, maybe not at an obvious level, but at some level it is changing. So when you throw the same routine at it for a long period of time it will adapt and the gains will quit coming. So the objective at that point is to figure out what can be done to push through this plateau and there are a few different variables that you’re able to change:

 

1) TRAIN YOUR LEGS!!!-Ok, so for some of you this is a no brainer and you lucky few can skip this section, but for those of you who think that running constitutes working out your legs, please continue to read. You see, incorporating squat variations, deadlift variations and other bilateral and unilateral lower body movements has this funny way of making the rest of your body stronger. Try to perform a simple goblet squat with a decent amount of weight and tell me that you just feel it in your legs. Doing these exercises takes strength and stability throughout the core and upper body and as such will develop strength in the musculature that is helping with the movement. Don’t worry, it helps with fat loss also.

 

2) Sets-Instead of 3 sets of an exercise, do 2 sets and add an exercise or 4 sets and take away an exercise. Don’t make this complex.

 

3) Reps-Instead of doing pyramids all the time, do sets of 5 or sets of 8, or if you’re doing sets of 5 try doing a pyramid, 10 8 6 4. Again, this isn’t complex, it can be a very simple change.

 

4) Exercise Selection-I understand that bench press is fun. It feeds your ego and you get to tell all your buddies that you finally hit 300…great. But try something different. Not only will you continue to move forward, you will save your shoulders from a lot of pain in the future.

 

5) Rest-Maybe you’re training too much or maybe just training one movement too often (hello, bench press!!). Give yourself time to recover and don’t go full speed ahead every day. Just remember, some days it’s OK to grease the groove. Also, get plenty of sleep. Sleep is when your body really recovers, replenishing hormones.

 

These are a few easy ways to keep yourself training through the dip. It may be changing your reps or exercise selection, but find out what works for you and get the weight moving….safely of course, and remember to KISS (keep it simple stupid). If you have any questions feel free to email us at info@scarlatostrength.com. Thanks and have a great day!