A gift is defined as a thing given willingly to someone without payment. Christmas is a time to give gifts to those in our lives. We spend a great deal of time picking out and buying the perfect gift. As I completed my shopping this past weekend, I thought about the gifts that can’t be purchased but are the best gifts we could ever give to someone.
There are several non-tangible gifts we can give to others and one of those is the gift of forgiveness. Here’s a recap of our blog on Practicing Forgiveness.
In life, people are not always nice. Sometimes it is by choice and sometimes it’s not. Our gut response to any type of pain, emotional or physical, is to protect ourselves. On the emotional level, this can be exhibited as placing blame, trying to get even or just carrying around a slow burning anger toward another person. Overtime, this negative energy affects us physically, emotionally and even spiritually.
In Buddhism, they compare the action of not forgiving others as holding onto hot coals to throw at someone else. This is a perfect analogy in my eyes. Who is going to hurt more? Plus, this puts serious stress on us mentally. To be unforgiving can cause hormonal imbalances and depletion of the chemicals we need to be happy. This long-term stress impacts our immune system and cardiovascular system thus shortening our lives.
All of us have been hurt at some point in our lives, and while it’s difficult to forgive, here are a few tips to help you get started:
In the last few days before Christmas, consider if you can give this gift to someone in your life. It won’t cost money, need to be gift wrapped or physically given. All it requires is for you to let go of negative feelings and be a better version of yourself.